We come into our marriages driven by all kinds of fears, desires, and needs.
If I look to my marriage to fill the God-sized spiritual vacuum in my heart, I will not be in position to serve my spouse. Only God can fill a God-sized hole.
Until God has the proper place in my life, I will always be complaining that my spouse is not loving me well enough, not respecting me enough, not supporting me enough.
Timothy Keller (The Meaning of Marriage)