1. You are never the same, ever again. Even if people have told you that in the past, it never quite sinks in till it happens to you.
2. Baby’s sleeping time is a precious commodity. Treasure and use it wisely.
3. I have never felt this helpless before, especially in the first few weeks of navigating through understanding baby’s cry. (its not always as simple as checking for feeding, soiled diapers, colic or baby’s temperature. It could be many other things. Humans are complex creatures. Let us not forget that.)
4. There will be many opinions pushed upon you. But ultimately, you learn by trial and error what works for baby, and yourself. Just as we are all different in temperaments and needs, so is every child.
5. Working together as a team with your spouse in caring for the baby strengthens you not only physically, but also emotionally. Laughing together when baby does his projectile poop and pee makes cleaning up more bearable. Going through sleepless nights with bleary eyes. Figuring out baby’s needs when he is upset. So grateful for an incredibly supportive husband and super hands-on dad.
6. You will somehow feel a greater closeness with other mothers like never before. So grateful for mummy friends who uplift and encourage (that includes some of our daddy friends too!). Whether it is checking on baby products or ways to handle a diaper rash, they are able to offer tips that they have tried with their own children.
7. Every mother especially I think, will feel inundated by guilt (not making enough milk, not spending enough time with baby, doing too much, doing too little. It can be anything!) So please, please, try to be as encouraging as you can. It is very daunting to be a first time mother. Every eye is on you, watching, and you fear that they are silently judging you too. (boo hoo hoo!)
8. That being said, you have to be patient first with yourself, patient with your baby and patient with the people around you. Hehe!
9. There is no perfect parent. We just learn to be less imperfect parents. Ha ha!
10. We learn about God’s love for us. How He loves us tenderly, faithfully and unconditionally. Nothing can make Him love us more or less. We can rest in the knowledge of His unchanging character.
Well, here are just some musings as I pump and make fruitful use of baby David’s sleeping time!