Comrades, for Life

Every day feels like a battle, a struggle to keep afloat and survive.

I’m so grateful it’s you by my side, and that we are in the trenches together.

Certainly not the ‘in-the-trenches look’! Short outing with grandma for some fresh air for all of us!


Little Moments 

The character and quality of our life is forged in “little moments”. {Paul David Tripp} 
It is a profound thought because it is in the little moments that our marriage is strengthened or weakened, either by our concern and care for one another or our indifference to the things that are important to our spouse but seemingly insignificant and unimportant to us. 
I’m thankful for a man who shows his love in a thousand ways to me in small but faithful acts each day. 
Love and appreciate you, darling.

Blessed Birthday, Darling

I thank the Lord for you each day.

I thank Him for His grace upon you that has seen you through each year of your life, all these years.

He has held you, loved you, watched over you with His loving eye, and disciplined you as how a true loving Father does for the child He loves.

I am so thankful to be a witness of God’s work in your life and how He is using you to be a blessing to the nations. May many come to experience Christ through you.

As your blessed and beloved wife, I have come to know and learn about unconditional love in a far deeper way. Thank you for loving me when the days are long and tough, for being there even when you do not have all the answers, and for being a constant to me amidst the ups and downs we go through together.

Thank you for your steadying hand that finds me each time we pray, walk or wait.

Thank you for your eyes that speak so much compassion for others. Thank you for teaching me to see things that others usually don’t.

Thank you for being strong, and yet vulnerable enough to reveal your weakness. Thank you for trusting me as your companion and allowing this strange creature called ‘woman’ to turn your life upside down and inside out. 🙂

Thank you for being willing to go through this beautiful messy thing called love, so that through you, I would be able to understand more about God’s love.

I’m so honored to be your wifey.

I hope you have a blessed day, and even more blessed year, because you truly deserve the best.

Love you always,



What is True Feminism?

Women get all indignant and upset when men make comments such as “she kicks the ball like a girl”, but don’t we realise we do the same when we say “You have nice handwriting for a guy!” and express surprise, as though all boys are expected to have incorrigible handwriting just as all women are expected to be poor drivers.

We truly champion for womanhood when we come alongside the men in our lives and support them. That’s what we were created to do since the beginning. I see it as no inferior position. God gave us the privilege of bearing children. He made us delicate, more refined in features and figure (aren’t you glad you aren’t born with hairy chests and toes?!) Haha! God gave us a sensitive heart and mind that would be able to discern needs that men are sometimes oblivious to.

God made men less emotional and gave them stronger minds so that they would be able to lead and provide stability to the people they lead.

Why do we want to compete with one another when we can see how both strengths and weaknesses are designed to complement, complete and fulfill our respective roles?

We are most woman when we fulfill the roles we were created for.

The world says fight for your rights, the Bible teaches us to lay down our lives.

Why is it that we go “awwwwww, so touching” and get teary eyed when we witness a man, on his knees, proposing marriage to his girl? Have we ever complained about gender equality then?

We don’t, because we see the preciousness of a man laying down his life for the woman he loves.

Look around you, and you will see the most beautiful among us are those who have sacrificed and given their all. They are the ones who have taught us what it means to have truly lived.

Blessed Birthday, My Love 

How blessed I am to be celebrating this birthday with you together, for the first time, and as your wife. 

I thank God every day for you. 

B, remember how I used to fear marriage because of the common perceptions about marriage. Many would speak about its challenges but rarely its blessings, and often time making marriage sound like a burden, a chore, a noose around the neck, maybe. (Haha) It was not because I didn’t appreciate the hard facts about marriage (or life) but the way some would speak of it in such a bitter and cynical manner made me fear if those things would happen to me.

You said this to me –

“I’m glad I have you. You bring out the best in me. And you make me want to be a biblical husband to you. I never imagined I could be so ‘good’ and that it would be so easy and natural. 

That’s why I know when we finally get together it will just be so beautiful. It will give me all the chances to show you that I’m your man. Then I can finally prove to you that it’s not just words. That I truly love you. And that you are truly beautiful in my eyes. And that I truly think the world of you. 

… And I would lay down my life for you. It will be much deeper and meaningful. I promise. The world says it will deteriorate. Don’t believe them. Believe His word. It will be all the more beautiful and alive and real. I will love you with all my heart. As myself, and more than myself. Rachel, be my wife. I love you. <3″ 

-March 25th 2014, 8:03am

When you asked for my hand in marriage, you told me that this would be the start of many new beginnings, but there would also be many deaths. 

When we wrote our vows, we had that at the back of our minds. 

You promised that as a couple and family that we would love others as we would ourselves, and more than that, as God has loved us. We would lay down our lives for others, that they may come to be called God’s friends. (Mark 12:30-31; John 13:34-35; John 15:9-17) 

You promised that we would seek God’s Kingdom first and His righteousness, holding nothing back for ourselves and of ourselves for His name’s sake and for the gospel’s, resting in His salvation, His love and His promised provision. (Matt 6:33, Luke 14:26-33, Mark 10:29-30; Rom 8:31-39)

You vowed that we would live as strangers and pilgrims on this earth, setting our minds and our hearts on the heavenly Homeland. Wherever He sets us to dwell, we will dwell. His people will be our people, and He shall be our God. We will die in the place and manner in which He appoints us to die. (Heb 11:13-16, Matt 6:21, Ruth 1:16-17)  

You vowed that we would be obedient to Christ’s conmand to go and make disciples of all the nations, inviting others to the Wedding Feast of the Lamb, that the Lord’s name be great among the nations. (Matt 28:18-20; Matt 22:1-14, Rev 19:6-9; Mal 1:11)

I promised that I would help and support you, and make your work and vision my own. I vowed to follow you to the ends of the earth, wherever our Beloved King would send us. I promised to not shirk from discomfort, uncertainty, opposition or hardship but welcome them, looking to Christ, longing to share in His sufferings and lose my life for His sake. (Matt 28:18-20, 1 Peter 4:13, Matthew 10:39) I promised that I would no longer live for myself, my own dreams, plans or desires but I would learn, by His grace, to lay down my life for you and the people He has called us to serve. 

We did not enter marriage with rose-tinted glasses. We were prepared to lose our possessions, any form of security, our health, our comfort, our lives and even each other. 

But He has been good to us. 

We see His faithfulness in the daily provisions we receive and the roof we have over our heads. 

We find joy, so much joy in doing life together – in the mundane and routine, and serving together as a couple on the fields. 

God has been so good to us and He has been so good to me, my love. 

Thank you for the man that you are to me. A man that loves God above all else is worth more than all the gems of the world. You have taught me so much. I have learned so much just by being your blessed wife. Your humility and patience is a gentle rebuke to me when I need it, and far more effective a response than harshness or impatience. 

Your love for the people here is not a full and perfect representation of Christ’s love for us, but your sacrifices, your willingness to be unknown and unappreciated speaks a lot about who you are in christ. 

Thank you for being my role model, my inspiration. 

I do not look to you as the perfect man who will never fail nor disappoint because that would be an impossible demand. 

But I know I could not have asked for more.

Thank you for being my husband.

Blessed 31st birthday, 

With all my love, 

Your most blessed and happy wife. 

Photo by Mun Keat Photography.

Most Blessed 

I count myself a most blessed wife indeed. 

Hubs made mystery dinner for our 2nd wedding “month-sary”. After allowing me to prepare the salad & mocktail in the kitchen, he shooed me off to the room, forbade me from coming into the kitchen and got to work with his imagination, a few ingredients & lots of love. 

Imagine stepping out of the room to a candle-lit table, with pizza fresh from the oven! (poor husband had to deal with working in a dark house as we had to keep all other electrical appliances off to keep our mini oven going without the electricity tripping!) 

On sliced bread he used our leftover frozen bolognese sauce and topped it with sliced cheese (from Malaysia), and another variety included garlic butter with shredded smoked pork (a gift from the village he ministered to over Easter weekend). 

It was delicious; my stomach was filled and my heart full. 

Babe, you are the man beyond what I could have ever dreamed of. I thank God everyday for you. 

I love you! 

My First Month Here in Indonesia  

Nick and I spent our first two weeks here getting our home into order & settling down into the church & community. Things then got pretty cruisy by week 3. God has been bringing neighbourhood kids to our doorstep regularly. Sometimes they play chess, but many times they ask to read and I have had the opportunity to give spontaneous, informal & very basic English classes to these children. Pray that I would teach skillfully & creatively to these children. I need wisdom from above. 🙂 

Our fourth week was my most challenging. Nick received an invitation to preach & minister in a village 6 hours away (by bike on dirt road). I knew it was time for me to face my fears of being left in the base camp without him. Having been unwell & slightly frail of late, it would have been unwise for him to bring me to that particular village which has extremely poor sanitation & requires long hours in sun exposure. 

I struggled with great loneliness the first two days of our separation. Nick himself too, wasn’t completely well during his time ministering up the mountains. 

Then I came down with what I believe to be an upper urinary tract infection which brought pain & also anxiety. 

Thankful for several church members who came alongside to support and help during this time. Also to the hubby who really has been my hero, comfort and strength the past month. 

If there are five words I could use to describe the life that I have chosen to life, it would be “Not easy, but surely blessed”. 

The Bible says in 1 Corinthians 7:29-31 that “the appointed time has grown very short. From now on, let those who have wives live as though they had none, and those who mourn as though they were not mourning, and those who rejoice as though they were not rejoicing, and those who buy as though they had no goods, and those who deal with the world as though they had no dealings with it. For the present form of this world is passing away.” 

This is certainly no excuse for husband or wife to neglect his or her marital and relational responsibilities within the context of marriage and family in the name of ministry or God. What I believe the bible is trying to say however, is that we must be so Christ and Kingdom focused, that it governs our daily decisions even in our marriage, work and how we manage our possessions. Viewing all these in the light of eternity helps us keep perspective of what’s truly important. 

As Nick’s wife I am not to seek a greater work other than doing the greater work of supporting the one who is called. It is my sacrifice as I “live as though I had no husband” when I release him to go and give and possibly even lose his life for the sake of Christ. And this is where my cross is heaviest.

But this is all part of “the deal”. 

Matthew 10:34-39 

“He who loves father or mother more than Me is not worthy of Me. And he who loves son or daughter more than Me is not worthy of Me. And he who does not take his cross and follow after Me is not worthy of Me. He who finds his life will lose it, and he who loses his life for My sake will find it.”

The central point of Matthew 10:34-37 is that the love of God and His kingdom must take precedence over every other human relationship. 

Jesus never promised us an easy journey, but He has given us His sufficient grace (2 Cor 12:9), He will bring our work to completion (Phil 1:6) and He has promised to never leave nor forsake us. (Heb 13:5)