Little Moments 

The character and quality of our life is forged in “little moments”. {Paul David Tripp} 
It is a profound thought because it is in the little moments that our marriage is strengthened or weakened, either by our concern and care for one another or our indifference to the things that are important to our spouse but seemingly insignificant and unimportant to us. 
I’m thankful for a man who shows his love in a thousand ways to me in small but faithful acts each day. 
Love and appreciate you, darling.

His Approval

Feelings of inadequacy & ‘unusefulness’ have been my common enemy here on the mission field. I am not physically strong, do not appreciate being under the hot sun & am simply not the go-girl kind who lives on adventure and change. I value family life and it’s strong traditions and thrive on constancy. With all those pulled away from under my feet, I often feel out of place, trying to find a constant and steadying place to find my balance. 

Recently, I was surprised with some very precious gifts from our dear Dayak friends and team members on my birthday. I did not expect anything, as usually, the person with the birthday is in fact, expected to throw the celebration if he so wished & come out with all the provisions needed for it.

So when Hengki and susi came bearing sweet home-made gifts and letters, I was touched deeply. The letters were simple and heartfelt and reflected humility and gratitude that blessed me . I am grateful for their love & acceptance of who I am, especially when I know that my flaws would be more evident to them as we work closely together as a team. I felt the love and respect they had for us expressed through  every word. God certainly used those letters to encourage and speak to my heart. 


Recently the Lord has been teaching me to yield my need for approval and recognition and to instead be seeking to please Him above all else. Why has it taken me so long to learn? It’s a wonderful thing to want to be the kind of wife and friend that seeks to make others happy and feel good about themselves but it also has the ugly and dangerous tendency of becoming an idol when I become more concerned about their opinions and feelings about me more than anything else. 

Teach me to be a woman of God who is strong and courageous . Let me be a woman who fears God and stands sure in confidence knowing that she has found favour in His sight. 

This is the woman I want to be. 

True Love

A true gentleman will treat ALL women with respect and honor, whether he finds them attractive or not. {The same principle goes for us women}.
James 2:1-13

That’s how you spot the gems among us 🙂

Find someone who loves even when it’s uncomfortable, inconvenient, unrewarding; and you would have found a person with the capacity to truly love.

What is True Feminism?

Women get all indignant and upset when men make comments such as “she kicks the ball like a girl”, but don’t we realise we do the same when we say “You have nice handwriting for a guy!” and express surprise, as though all boys are expected to have incorrigible handwriting just as all women are expected to be poor drivers.

We truly champion for womanhood when we come alongside the men in our lives and support them. That’s what we were created to do since the beginning. I see it as no inferior position. God gave us the privilege of bearing children. He made us delicate, more refined in features and figure (aren’t you glad you aren’t born with hairy chests and toes?!) Haha! God gave us a sensitive heart and mind that would be able to discern needs that men are sometimes oblivious to.

God made men less emotional and gave them stronger minds so that they would be able to lead and provide stability to the people they lead.

Why do we want to compete with one another when we can see how both strengths and weaknesses are designed to complement, complete and fulfill our respective roles?

We are most woman when we fulfill the roles we were created for.

The world says fight for your rights, the Bible teaches us to lay down our lives.

Why is it that we go “awwwwww, so touching” and get teary eyed when we witness a man, on his knees, proposing marriage to his girl? Have we ever complained about gender equality then?

We don’t, because we see the preciousness of a man laying down his life for the woman he loves.

Look around you, and you will see the most beautiful among us are those who have sacrificed and given their all. They are the ones who have taught us what it means to have truly lived.

What Sort of Voice Are You to Others?

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Reread this sweet note in my Bible this morning… It made me smile, alas a little pensively.

A note from my best friend, written early December last year while I was struggling through a flare and many episodes of being unwell. It was also at that time where I was trying to make sense of everything that had happened the past year. I was discouraged, tired, wounded and searching. The seeming silence from God was killing me.

We all need someone in our lives at some point of time, to remind us to keep going.

When you’re in a pit, and light seems so far away, when there seems to be no way out…

All you need sometimes, is a voice piercing through the darkness…

Hold on!

Don’t give up.

God knows what He is doing.

He doeth all things well. 

The past three months have been a flurry of activity – learning, growing, unwrapping new gifts…

Was it only months ago that I spent many weeks in tears, uttering desperate prayers in the silence of the night?

How would I have known when my breakthrough would finally come?

One may be at the brink of a breakthrough without realising it, only to turn away and give up.

That’s when you need that faithful voice.

Can we be that faithful voice to those in despair, the discouraged, the lonely?

Could you, through your words and friendship, and by God’s grace, be the person to pull someone out of making a devastating or destructive decision? Your timely action and words may be the lifesaving grace of God to him in his moment of desperation or depression!

Or are we going to be akin to Job’s friends – quick to judge, quick to condemn, quick to dispense gratuitous advice?

Proverbs 15:23

A man has joy by the answer of his mouth, and a word spoken in due season, how good it is!

1 Corinthians 13

Chapter 13

The Way of Love

If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal.

And if I have prophetic powers, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing.

If I give away all I have, and if I deliver up my body to be burned, but have not love, I gain nothing.

Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude.

It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth.

Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

Love never ends. As for prophecies, they will pass away; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will pass away.

For we know in part and we prophesy in part, but when the perfect comes, the partial will pass away.

When I was a child, I spoke like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I gave up childish ways.

For now we see in a mirror dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I have been fully known.

So now faith, hope, and love abide, these three; but the greatest of these is love.

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