Little Moments 

The character and quality of our life is forged in “little moments”. {Paul David Tripp} 
It is a profound thought because it is in the little moments that our marriage is strengthened or weakened, either by our concern and care for one another or our indifference to the things that are important to our spouse but seemingly insignificant and unimportant to us. 
I’m thankful for a man who shows his love in a thousand ways to me in small but faithful acts each day. 
Love and appreciate you, darling.

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Blessed Birthday, My Love 

How blessed I am to be celebrating this birthday with you together, for the first time, and as your wife. 

I thank God every day for you. 

B, remember how I used to fear marriage because of the common perceptions about marriage. Many would speak about its challenges but rarely its blessings, and often time making marriage sound like a burden, a chore, a noose around the neck, maybe. (Haha) It was not because I didn’t appreciate the hard facts about marriage (or life) but the way some would speak of it in such a bitter and cynical manner made me fear if those things would happen to me.

You said this to me –

“I’m glad I have you. You bring out the best in me. And you make me want to be a biblical husband to you. I never imagined I could be so ‘good’ and that it would be so easy and natural. 

That’s why I know when we finally get together it will just be so beautiful. It will give me all the chances to show you that I’m your man. Then I can finally prove to you that it’s not just words. That I truly love you. And that you are truly beautiful in my eyes. And that I truly think the world of you. 

… And I would lay down my life for you. It will be much deeper and meaningful. I promise. The world says it will deteriorate. Don’t believe them. Believe His word. It will be all the more beautiful and alive and real. I will love you with all my heart. As myself, and more than myself. Rachel, be my wife. I love you. <3″ 

-March 25th 2014, 8:03am



When you asked for my hand in marriage, you told me that this would be the start of many new beginnings, but there would also be many deaths. 



When we wrote our vows, we had that at the back of our minds. 

You promised that as a couple and family that we would love others as we would ourselves, and more than that, as God has loved us. We would lay down our lives for others, that they may come to be called God’s friends. (Mark 12:30-31; John 13:34-35; John 15:9-17) 



You promised that we would seek God’s Kingdom first and His righteousness, holding nothing back for ourselves and of ourselves for His name’s sake and for the gospel’s, resting in His salvation, His love and His promised provision. (Matt 6:33, Luke 14:26-33, Mark 10:29-30; Rom 8:31-39)

You vowed that we would live as strangers and pilgrims on this earth, setting our minds and our hearts on the heavenly Homeland. Wherever He sets us to dwell, we will dwell. His people will be our people, and He shall be our God. We will die in the place and manner in which He appoints us to die. (Heb 11:13-16, Matt 6:21, Ruth 1:16-17)  



You vowed that we would be obedient to Christ’s conmand to go and make disciples of all the nations, inviting others to the Wedding Feast of the Lamb, that the Lord’s name be great among the nations. (Matt 28:18-20; Matt 22:1-14, Rev 19:6-9; Mal 1:11)

I promised that I would help and support you, and make your work and vision my own. I vowed to follow you to the ends of the earth, wherever our Beloved King would send us. I promised to not shirk from discomfort, uncertainty, opposition or hardship but welcome them, looking to Christ, longing to share in His sufferings and lose my life for His sake. (Matt 28:18-20, 1 Peter 4:13, Matthew 10:39) I promised that I would no longer live for myself, my own dreams, plans or desires but I would learn, by His grace, to lay down my life for you and the people He has called us to serve. 

We did not enter marriage with rose-tinted glasses. We were prepared to lose our possessions, any form of security, our health, our comfort, our lives and even each other. 

But He has been good to us. 

We see His faithfulness in the daily provisions we receive and the roof we have over our heads. 

We find joy, so much joy in doing life together – in the mundane and routine, and serving together as a couple on the fields. 

God has been so good to us and He has been so good to me, my love. 

Thank you for the man that you are to me. A man that loves God above all else is worth more than all the gems of the world. You have taught me so much. I have learned so much just by being your blessed wife. Your humility and patience is a gentle rebuke to me when I need it, and far more effective a response than harshness or impatience. 

Your love for the people here is not a full and perfect representation of Christ’s love for us, but your sacrifices, your willingness to be unknown and unappreciated speaks a lot about who you are in christ. 



Thank you for being my role model, my inspiration. 

I do not look to you as the perfect man who will never fail nor disappoint because that would be an impossible demand. 

But I know I could not have asked for more.

Thank you for being my husband.

Blessed 31st birthday, 

With all my love, 

Your most blessed and happy wife. 



Photo by Mun Keat Photography.



If Men Would Be Men, and Women, Women

Women were created from the rib of man to be beside him, not from his head to top him, nor from his feet to be trampled by him, but from under his arm to be protected by him, near to his heart to be loved by him.

– David O. McKay

He leads. She trusts and follows.

He initiates. She responds to that unselfish act of leadership.

He offers his arm. She accepts it. Gladly.

He protects. She nurtures.

Do we really think we have a better pattern and blueprint for marriage better than the one Christ laid for us?

Ephesians 5:22-33

Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.

Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish.

In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, because we are members of his body.

“Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.”

This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church.

However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.

Can My Spouse Fulfil All My Needs?

We come into our marriages driven by all kinds of fears, desires, and needs.

If I look to my marriage to fill the God-sized spiritual vacuum in my heart, I will not be in position to serve my spouse. Only God can fill a God-sized hole.

Until God has the proper place in my life, I will always be complaining that my spouse is not loving me well enough, not respecting me enough, not supporting me enough.

Timothy Keller (The Meaning of Marriage)

A Note to Wives (or any women planning to be married)

The fact that the Bible has commanded the husbands to love their wives as Christ loved the church – faithfully and unconditionally, does not give women any excuse to be a pain in the neck.

You say that he should model Christ’s love regardless of how you act. Is that what you want?

Is that what Christ wants? 

Do you want your husband to be forced to seek supernatural power just to find a way to love you? 

Do you want to be another of his trials – his greatest example of overcoming adversity?

The home front should not be a spiritual battlefield; it should be the place where a man relaxes and can be vulnerable with the woman he cherishes. 

-Debi Pearl (Created to be His Help Meet)

Love and Truth

Love without truth is sentimentality; it supports and affirms us but keeps us in denial about our flaws.

Truth without love is harshness; it gives us information but in such a way that we cannot really hear it.

God’s saving love in Christ, however, is marked by both radical truthfulness about who we are and yet also radical, unconditional commitment to us.

-The Meaning of Marriage (Timothy Keller)

What Do You Look For in a Potential Spouse?

Good at dancing. A sense of humour. Charming. Able to sustain intelligent conversations. Loves sports/music/animals. The list goes on…

Mum reminds us, “You may be attracted to a personality, but you get married to a character.

While love is a complex thing and each of us have our preferences, I’ve come across a concise but complete list that is helpful. It’s taken from a book on Courtship titled, The Better Way. (Unfortunately, I do not have the book at hand and cannot recall the authors’ names.)

While this list is directed towards believers, it’s helpful for any young person really.

1. The person must be in love with Jesus. (PASSION)

2. He/she must be an example to others. (PATTERN)

3. That person must be pursuing God’s call for his/her life. (PURPOSE)

4. My gifting should complement his/hers. (PARTNERSHIP)

5. We should be able to correct one another. (PROTECTION)

6. We should find one another attractive. (PLEASANT)

7. Our relationship should be blessed by both our fathers as well as our Heavenly Father. (PARENTS)

In another conversation with mum during our morning walks, she noted that it was important to look for a man who is yielded. Nothing kills a relationship more than selfishness.

Wanna be married? Be prepared to die to yourself and live for the other.

No wonder Paul did say, it was better to remain as he was. 😀